The title says it all, easier said than done right? the truth is that it takes a lot of time for some people (and not so long for some others) to find a place where they feel welcomed and belonging, it's a quite cool feeling when people appreciate you and makes an effort in making you feel comfortable at work in every aspect by always taking into account what's important to you and helping you with that.
For me, I've been working in the software industry since I was studying, and I have a lot of stories. Most companies value the business first, and that's completely valid, if the business is OK, everyone is getting paid and everyone is happy. But I feel I don't last long in this type of companies, I value flexibility, every company has its rules and every manager has their values and also set of rules they use to run their teams, but I believe everything needs to be evaluated in a case by case basis, not everyone has the same conditions or priorities in life and this is where this approach fails. Let me share a brief story of my professional life until now and why I've left some of the companies I worked for.
My first official job, and by official I mean, for a company, with a contract and not doing something kinda freelance for a friend, was with an online news hub, they scrapped news websites and presented all the headlines from different sources in a single place, people could customize which sources they preferred for certain topics and filter based on that. My job there was to build bots to scrape multiple sources, extract the content and store it in our system. I was still doing my undergraduate courses so it was a part-time thing.
Everything was going great! salary always on time for about 3 months, then...
By the end of the fourth month, I didn't see the salary being credited to my account, I didn't pay too much attention, maybe there's a delay with the bank or they didn't process the payroll on time or whatever, I emailed my manager and I got an auto-response that he was on vacation, half-way into the month I email my manager's manager asking what happened...
The answer was yes, you didn't get paid because you're not working with us anymore, I was a bit shocked because no one told me I was let go, they conveniently forgot to tell me that little detail, wait a minute, this gets way better, I highlighted exactly that and the answer was amazing: well, Israel, if you see the contract it says any party can end the employment agreement. It doesn't explicitly mention any notice, technically we didn't do anything wrong. Long story short, I had to threat them with going to the labor authority and report the issue in order to get my last salary... almost 3 months after.
There's very bad people owning and managing companies, I know I was undergraduate but they even used that fact to imply I should be thankful about them paying me for my work because, and I quote textually, a lot of students would work for free just to get the experience, well, I wasn't one of those students...
My first professional work experience was on my internship, I did it with a small local OpenSource consultancy firm, I learned A LOT!, the work environment was great and fun, workmates were cool, smart and the kind of people who knows what they're doing. The only bad thing was salary, as I was an intern, my salary was low, but I was OK, at least I was doing things I was into and learning quite a lot.
When I finished my internship, they offered me a permanent position which I accepted, they were aware I was still having academic commitments and they were OK with that. I had to work on my thesis project so, after some time I asked for some time off to do that, they offered me a room at the office where I could lock myself up for up to 3 hours a day to fully focus on my thesis, this was awesome but the only bad thing was it was respected for a bit over a week, after that I started getting constantly interrupted to work on other things, we went back and forth with this for a little over 2 months until I decided to quit so I could focus on my thesis.
Sometimes your priorities and the organization's priorities are not aligned, and this is fine, when this happens the best thing to do is to part ways. Maybe if I was given that time off to complete my thesis as I initially requests I would still be working there. The company, the projects and the team were awesome.
I won't be talking about how I got a job in Dubai and how I got here, I wrote about it before, I won't write about how cool it was because I already did it but I'll dig a bit deeper on the real reasons behind me leaving that company. I wrote an article before about it, but I wasn't completely honest about why I actually left because I didn't think it was appropriate at that time. By now, I know people have changed and switched places, and everything is different so I won't be at risk of exposing anyone.
In October 18th 2016 my first daughter was born, and it was also the day that marked the beginning of the end for me at that company. See, here in the UAE, the paternity leave policy at that time was 1 week off, that company gave 2 weeks and nothing more. Everyone knew my wife and I are here alone, the nearest relatives we have are in Spain so we were becoming parents all by ourselves, which is a lot of work, paternity leave is not vacation it's time to support your wife who just pushed a human being out of her body and now has to breastfeed, which is very energy-consuming and demanding.
So, 2 weeks are not enough, 40 days is the recommended resting time for new moms, I literally had to beg for my line manager to approve 2 extra weeks off from my annual leave and coming back, everything was changed.
My line manager started making my life impossible, I got a terrible performance review, which I felt was not fair because an incident from over a year and a half ago was brought up as the reason even though I fixed it in less than 1hr since the bug affecting subscriptions experience was reported.
Then, my in-laws visited in November, they were staying with us in Dubai for three months, until January, so, I applied for 2 weeks off in December so that we could spend some time around Christmas and New Year together and show them around. In December, the guy announces the following: guys!, there's a lot to do, so I won't be approving any vacations this month, my time off request was rejected and then I got to know another colleague got it approved to go back home for a relative's wedding and another colleague was also traveling the same month. I didn't get to spend too much time around either because there was always something to do, one day, at around 17:30, the guy in question starts packing to leave and says Israel!, please make sure you close all the zendesk tickets before leaving. After he left, I checked our support dashboard... over 30 tickets pending for resolution. I was effectively being given all the crappy tasks no one else wanted to work on.
Yup, I thought things were going to improve, and they did for a bit, in 2017 I spoke in 2 conferences and several meetups, mostly about things I was working on and trying to attract more talent for the company as well. Before one of the conferences I got a task on a very short notice before traveling, so, I made it clear I might not be able to finish it before flying, but I would complete what I could and leave pointers on how to finish it so someone else could pick it up and I did exactly that, the night before flying I wrote a very comprehensive email explaining the approach I was following and detailing which classes needed to be changed, which methods and why, even left some test cases written to validate the functionality worked correctly. Coming back from the conference, my new manager calls me for a meeting, I thought it was something related to the talk I gave in the conference, but nope... not even close...
He hands me a warning letter, on which grounds?, because I failed to finish a task and left for a week, and he also mentioned your team mates say you're unreliable and they avoid working with you, I was shocked, no one ever told me anything like that. A few days after that meeting I asked my colleagues for feedback and everything I got was positive, so, I figured, either my line manager was lying to me or my colleagues were not professional enough to speak to me directly about work-related things they were not happy about with me. In both cases, I think that's unacceptable in a professional environment, I thought I left all that "talking behind your back" thing back in high school.
Anyways, the performance review time comes and I'm called for the performance evaluation meeting, to my surprise, there's my line manager and my old manager sitting behind the table which I found strange, what was even more strange was that the person delivering the performance evaluation was my old manager and, guess what, it wasn't a good one and quite old things from over 2.5 years ago were brought up, I have to admit I lost my cool in the middle stopped the evaluation, told my manager You'll have my resignation email in a few minutes and left the room, that's when I wrote an email to HR CCing my line manager to start my notice period.
The minute you feel something is not right, speak up, complain, talk to people, highlight it... if you feel it isn't right, then it isn't right, you don't have take crap from anyone and if someone is giving you a hard time for no apparent reason, the best thing to do is to part ways, to be honest, looking back I feel I took too long to leave.
I already wrote about joining Careem and why I joined, so, I won't repeat myself here, but I will point out that I had my second daughter recently (2020) and I was super scared about it, this didn't go too well with my previous employer and I have to confess I started interviewing with several companies at the time, had 2 very good offer letters in my hands and was on the final stages for another 2 openings.
Well, the only thing which was the same was the paternity leave time, only 2 weeks, I spoke to my manager about getting an extended paternity leave because of COVID, no family was going to be able to come over, airports were closed (it was by the end of 2020) and forget about traveling to Spain and working from there for a while... you know... because COVID... and also because my wife's passport was expiring. Nothing like this was ever proposed at Careem and he was quite new in this being a manager thing so, he did what any new manager would do, he asked me to go to HR and he would be OK with whatever they decide and, if they said no, we would find a way.
So... I went to HR and explained everything, they were super supportive, they said hey, there's no such thing as an extended paternity leave, but you can request time off your annual leave as we have unlimited vacations policy and we will leave a note highlighting this was for paternity extension. I did just that, not only HR and my manager were super supportive, but also my whole team. I got a bit over a full month to spend at home supporting my wife and taking care of our 4yo who was staying at home because of the pandemic so that my wife could breastfeed peacefully, also doing a lot of diaper changes.
Then, coming back to work was super flexible, they gave me quite flexible timing to continue supporting at home while we got back into the routine. I even got a great performance review, I am beyond happy about all of this.
Well, I understood that very few companies are like this, so... I ended up rejecting the offers and canceling the last interview rounds.
A job is a job, and there's nothing you can do about it, you have it today, tomorrow no one knows. But not all companies are the same, there are some which puts the business first. For example, the first company I worked for... maybe they needed someone cheap to complete the mechanical work of implementing web scrapers to extract the content from those websites and they just stopped caring after it was done, I don't know. The one where I did my internship, well, they had projects to finish for the clients, so, they needed me to work on that, so my thesis and my graduation goal wasn't a priority for them. My first job in Dubai, well, I don't know what happened there, but if they had a "people first" kind of philosophy nothing of that would had happened. Of course, I understand, if the business comes first, it runs, it generates value and revenue and people gets paid.
Then, on the other hand, we have companies like Careem, maybe supporting my wife is not their business or priority, but it was something I needed to do so, they supported me on that. Then, coming back to work and get back into the routine might be their priority, and also mine, but also family comes first, so... if something was happening at home, I had to solve that first and then comes the work. They could have rushed me into work, but they didn't, we went step by step and I took only non-critical tasks for a while until everything was settled both at home and work. They understand that if you put your people first, they will care for the business as if it was their own, and that's exactly what I do. I want to work on a place like this for a very long time, and it's my job to contribute to its success so I can continue here.
Thank you Careem for being Careem.