I've been hearing and reading about COVID-19 since January 2020, this is the event that changed many people lives, all of a sudden, companies were closed, people were requested to stay at home, many businesses broke and many more are about to. I think one of the most impacted roles are the ones that require people to be on-site in order to do their job, for instance, hospitality is taking a huge hit because of the lack of business and hospitality employees are taking a huge risk by going to work too.
Tech people such as Software Engineers, Product Managers and everyone who works in the tech industry building software products running in the cloud are very lucky because all we need is an internet connection and a laptop, in some cases a VPN setup to access the company resources and that's it, we can work from anywhere in the planet, in many cases, people are very used to work remotely, nowadays technology allows you to keep communicated, there's email, cellphones, chat, video-conferencing tools to keep everyone in touch and, again, all you need is a decent laptop (usually company-provided) and an internet connection.
When COVID-19 cases started to spike worldwide many governments started asking people to stay home to keep people from getting infected, then, it was not an optional thing, it became mandatory in many countries, here in the UAE, specifically in the Emirate of Dubai, people are not allowed to go out, only for essential reasons or emergencies. Buying food, medicines or a medical appointment are valid reasons to go out and a permit needs to be obtained from Dubai Police, this is done online and it's usually approved, takes only 15min.
The issue is, almost everyone in the tech industry is working from home, schools are closed so, kids are also required to stay home. Usually, when you work from home, kids are at school so you can just be at home and get things done without any distraction if you're disciplined enough. But, in this case, people might have kids asking them to play with them, demanding attention, siblings fighting over a toy and, a worried parent, trying to get things done, most companies have understood that and organized online activities with a focus on kids, Careem is one of these and I'm very proud and happy to work for a company like this which is willing to, not only give me the flexibility to care for my daughter when I need to, but also help me entertain her with online activities carried out voluntarily by my colleagues.
I've worked remotely before, I'm very used to it, for over a year at Careem, even though I was on-site at Basecamp here in Dubai, I was the only team member here, the rest of my team was located in Karachi, Pakistan, so, online communication was the only way to stay in touch, back home in Caracas, I used to work from home as well at times, but in both cases, I didn't have a 3yo at home wandering around and taking my attention away from work.
I love my daughter, I love sitting and playing with her, showing her stuff and her look when she draws something and comes very excited to show me and explain the drawing for me, but I also have to work, my boss and my team understand the challenges of working from home with kids and are very flexible, but, my daughter, and most 3yo kids, have a hard time understanding that daddy (or mommy) needs to sit for a long time in front of their computer and do things, so, we need to look for other strategies
My daughter is 3 years old, this means she has a lot of energy and wants to play all the time. I've been reading a great book on parenting called How to talk so little kids listen . It more like "How to not be a jerk to your kids when they don't want to listen", it gives few strategies to make them be more collaborative without the punishment/reward technique which backfires after some time and, sometimes, it just doesn't work.
Yes, she actually says that, I can't get her in front of the computer and have her write code, but what I can do is give her few assignments or fun stuff to do while I work, I ask her to paint something and give her some brushes and markers, or a coloring book and ask her to finish few pages or draw some letters or numbers, and that I'll come back and review her work when she's done. My mom is a pre-school teacher and she sent me a lot of activity sheets for her (all in Spanish so that she also learns the language).
Well... kids are people too, if someone imposes something to you, chances are you won't like to do it, just like grown ups, they like to be in control of what they do, so, I give her options "oh, ok, you don't want to paint, then you can do some playdoh figures or play a game in the iPad" (a carefully chosen educational game), that usually helps.
Ok, this has been a tough one, but what I've found was that putting her in charge again works. I've been using the pomodoro technique to manage work time and break time, so, I fully focus for 1hr and then I take a 15 to 20 minutes break. The way this works is, I tell my daughter to remind me to take breaks, I give her a timer and I tell her "please, come pick me up when the alarm rings" and then, while playing I tell her "please, remind me to go back to work when the alarm rings", this has worked so well we've started using it for timing other things
It happens from time to time, specially when she's sleepy and in a very cranky mood, what I try to do in these cases is go into problem solving mode (if she's not cranky) I tell her "ok, you want to play but daddy needs to work, what can we do?" sometimes she says "no, no, no work!" when this happens and if I can't manage to convince her, I just take a break if I don't have any meetings. Sometimes, when it works, she says "ok, ok, let's put the alarm" or "I'll cook you something in my kitchen while you work", and she brings me a delicious plastic omelet.
If I tell her, "we will do X" we do it, kids are kids but they're not stupid, they remember things and they will hold you accountable, so, if it's in my control, I hold my promises, if not (because the place I promised to take her is closed or the item I was ordering for her is not available) I resort to something else like giving her a handwritten ticket valid for the same thing the next day, she's usually happy about that and reminds me the next day, ticket in hand.
Yes, breakfast, lunch and dinner, we share and we spend those eating breaks together, having fun while cooking (or reheating leftovers) and then making the food disappear
I've been reading everywhere "This pandemic is not a productivity contest", while this is true, it is also true that we need to do our best to be as productive as we can, we have other colleagues relying on the work we do and, more importantly, people relying on the services or apps we build and maintain.
Remember that kids are kids, you were a kid some time ago, so, try not to explode when things are not going the way you'd like the best thing to do is to have a deep breath and adapt
Remember that you're not actually working from home, we all are in a pandemic, locked at home and trying to get work done. Don't push it too hard, you can always catch up after hours, over night or by waking up earlier than everyone and working while everyone is asleep
The more you apply certain techniques, the more they will tend to work in future, so be patient and persistent